sex appeal (noun)
1 : The quality of being sexually attractive.
Full Definition of sex appeal:
1 : Personal appeal or physical attractiveness.
2 : Stimulating attractiveness.
(defined by Merriam-Webster)
We see people all the time who have a huge amount of sex appeal, right? Turn on your television or go watch a movie and you’ll see some sex appeal. Read through any of the celebrity gossip, fashion, etc. magazines and you’ll see some sex appeal. Go to the strip club and you’ll see some sex appeal (okay, that’s too easy).
“But those are all celebrities, models or strippers,” you say, “they don’t count.” You’re right, they don’t count, and that’s why we’re not going to talk about them.
Now, let’s talk about “normal human being” sex appeal.
I live in Latin America, and there’s no shortage of people with sex appeal here. It’s kind of ridiculous actually, but that’s beside the point.
What’s really interesting, though, is that there are a lot of “larger” people with big sex appeal (pun intended). What might be considered 20-30 lbs. overweight in the U.S. is considered “just right” here in Latin America.
I agree with this mentality.
I’m not saying being healthy and fit is unattractive. It’s obviously attractive when people are in peak physical shape, but we don’t all have 8 hours a day to spend at the gym workin’ on our humps.
But how can they have such big sex appeal if they’re 20-30 lbs. “overweight”?
There are a few things at play here. First, they aren’t raised here to be skinny like the models in the U.S. Instead, they are raised to use what they’ve got, however much of it they have.
In fact, I personally know girls who drink protein shakes to pump up their booties. Do they work out? No. But they feel sexy putting on protein pounds.
What does sex appeal really come down to then?
The 4-Step Equation To Having Massive Sex Appeal
This is the number one sex appeal factor. However, it cannot be faked. If you try to fake it you’ll just look like someone faking self-confidence, which spells insecure, which equals the opposite of sex appeal.
Confidence comes from many different avenues. For example, if you’re eating healthy and exercising regularly, you probably have more confidence in how you feel with your appearance. Not only with size and shape, but also many other factors that come along with it (better skin, healthier insides, etc.).
Another confidence avenue is self-worth and security. Do you know who you are and what you’re made of? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Those play a huge role in confidence.
People in power positions are sexier. Not all of the time, but it does add a couple of sex appeal points to whatever they have goin’ on, doesn’t it? And why is that? Well, usually people work their asses off to get to positions that hold more power. Usually people have been around the block a few times (i.e. they are wiser) by the time they get there. It’s not necessarily the position they hold, but what they have had to become to get there.
People who don’t need to be needed are super sexy, right? People who wear things just to get attention might be sexy, but they lack the self-esteem necessary to reach a high level of sex appeal. People with sex appeal know they’re sexy, but they don’t need to flaunt it. They feel it, deep down. They have accepted themselves as a sexual being. They don’t need anyone else’s approval.
The fourth and final step in the sex appeal equation is humility. People with humility don’t think they are better than other people. At first it might appear that these sexy beasts are arrogant, but most of the time it’s the viewer looking through insecure eyes and seeing someone who thinks they’re better (or sexier) than them.
People with high levels of humility are really attractive because they’re being themselves. Whether they’re happy, frustrated, pissed off, excited or in a goofy mood – they’re being themselves. They’re the first ones to laugh at themselves for saying or doing something stupid. They’re not afraid to look like an idiot for asking a question that everyone might know the answer to. They don’t care what anyone thinks. And that’s sexy.
Whether you care about having sex appeal or not, these are great areas to look into. Take some time to explore them within yourself.
Do you have any other ideas about sex appeal? Anything I missed? Let me know in the comments section below.