Why You Should Be Your Own Guru:
When it comes down to it, nobody knows you better than you do. Even if you feel you don’t know yourself at all…you do. You just need to get back in touch with yourself is all.
We seek advice, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It gives us perspective and the ability to see the situation from the outside. However, we should make sure that person is a living example of who we want to be in that situation (i.e. don’t take advice from people who don’t exemplify where you want to be, given that particular situation they’re advising you on).
For example, you probably shouldn’t take relationship advice from someone who has a history of relationships that didn’t go well, career advice from someone who hasn’t excelled in their own, or growth advice from someone who never leaves their comfort zone.
We’ve all taken advice from people we shouldn’t have, but the good news is we don’t have to anymore. Instead, become an investigator. Investigate everything. Who is a living example of what you’re dealing with? Learn from them and then come up with your own conclusions.
Even if they are walking the walk, it doesn’t mean their advice is always the right move for you, and for your particular situation. Dig deeper inside yourself to make those decisions, rather than taking the easy way and having someone else make them for you. It’s nice to have a scapegoat, but now it’s time to lead your own life. Choose to make your own decisions…and choose to be your own guru.
How To Do It:
1) Make the decision.
Before you can become your own guru, you have to decide that you want to take your life into your own hands. I’m not at all saying that you should drop your belief in a higher power (in fact, if you do believe in something, call upon that to guide you through this process). What I’m saying is that you need to decide to take action and lead your own life. Miracles will happen, higher powers will show up, and dreams will come true when you take action.
2) Take action.
Talk to people you trust, Google stuff, gather as much information as you can, and take it all with a grain of salt. I don’t recommend the Facebook status update approach…you’re sure to get some bad advice that way. Instead, think about the people in your life that might “get” what you’re dealing with and reach out to them. It constantly surprises me how willing people are to help.
3) Process the information.
At this point you will have enough information from the outside that you’ll need. Now it’s time to gather information from the inside. Get old school and break out a piece of paper and a pen (okay, a laptop or smartphone for you young folk) and start writing. Ask yourself “what do I feel I should do?” and let the writing flow. Don’t think about it, don’t stop it, don’t correct your spelling errors, don’t scribble/cross anything out – just write. Stream of consciousness writing is a great way to pull from our depths to find the truth about how we feel.
Another great method is Meditation. Meditation can help to bring you closer to yourself. It’s in the deep silence, when all of the voices and thoughts go quiet, and when all of the distractions have been forgotten, that you can finally hear your own (true) voice.
4) Make your decision.
At this point you should have a very clear answer. If not, repeat the steps until you do. The answers come through as a small epiphany most times, like an “ah ha!” moment. This is a practice, so don’t quit if it doesn’t work the first few times. Gurus don’t gain enlightenment without seeking it in one way or another. It takes time, patience, and the will to want to pave your own path. Take small steps, and the momentum will get you there.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you have any advice that people can use for this process? Please share in the comments section