First the apology: I’m sorry it has been so long since the last blog post. Sure, a lot has been happening, but a lot happens to a lot of people, and they still have updates.
It has been a while since the last blog post, so let me share with you a couple of exciting things that have been happening around here.
The first bit of exciting news is that I got engaged! I have written a little about Emily, but not in very much detail, but now that she’s almost locked in I can write about her and she won’t break up with me! Muahahahaha
Short story long, Emily and I met at a mutual friend’s going away party. It turned out that both of us were going to cancel our attendance (an ex was going to be there, and she got drenched by a wave of water from a bus, but for one reason or another we both still decided to go.
The moment I saw her my eyes lit up, the butterflies flew into my stomach and an excitement came over me. I just knew there was something there. Oddly enough, I saw her two years prior to this moment, and the same thing happened. We were both in relationships at that time (and she doesn’t remember meeting me!), but that same spark happened. I hadn’t thought about it until I saw her again.
Since that going away party we have hung out nearly every day, and many times all day long. Rather than getting sick of each other, we grow closer together every day that passes. That’s one of the reasons I knew she was the one for me.
Emily’s first time meeting my family was on Skype. We were at her cupcake cafe in Costa Rica, and my family was in the delivery room in Orange County, CA…where my sister-in-law was giving birth to the first baby in the family, little Jaxon.
Did he say delivery room?! Yeah, INSIDE the delivery room! After seeing the things she saw in that delivery room, and the awkwardness of the scenario of that first interaction, and her not wanting to run for the hills, I knew she was the one for me.
We moved in together quickly, partly out of convenience here in Costa Rica, and partly out of an unspoken test to see if we would be compatible living together. After being in each other’s faces day in and day out, and after learning more about each other than some do in 20 years, we are closer than ever.
Emily was there for the birth of “Be With The Bacon” – it came from us having breakfast one morning, and a bit of deep early morning conversation (not recommended without at least a cup of coffee first).
After a couple of months of dating I took Emily to California to meet my family (and make up for the traumatic delivery room first encounter). Emily had never held a baby before, and she was extremely nervous to hold a brand new baby. Seeing how she deals with taking on new experiences is another reason I knew she was the one for me.
I went to South Africa to spend Christmas and New Years with her family. Seeing how close they all were, and getting a glimpse (ok, a 6 hour video that I passed out in the middle of) into what Emily’s life was like growing up is how I knew Emily was going to be great for our children.
We just got back from a trip to NYC to celebrate Emily’s birthday. I set up a day full of surprises for her because surprises are her favorite things in the world (besides Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups). We went on a Circle Line Tour around lower Manhattan. Then we went to Central Park for a picnic (I got really lucky with the weather!). Then we went on a horse and carriage ride through the park…and that’s when I popped the question:
The driver had no idea I was going to do it, so I got lucky he was fairly good with a camera. We asked him to take a photo of us, and when he was moving around the carriage to take a photo from a different angle, I sneakily grabbed the ring, got down on one knee, and sat there…Emily was posing for the photo and didn’t realize I was proposing!
After she realized I was down there, she turned around and looked at me in utter confusion, and I popped the question…
She said YES!
I won’t go into detail about all of the various items in play to get everything to come together. But I do want to thank my family, who all flew out to be there for this amazing moment (well, for dinner afterward, not actually creeping behind the carriage), and for everyone who had to keep it a secret from Emily. I know it wasn’t easy to do, but it was so worth it. The stars aligned, and those who were involved know just how many miracles had to happen for it to be the success that it was. Thank you.
People asked if I was nervous (even Emily can’t figure out why I wasn’t weird or nervous all day leading up to it), but I wasn’t at all. All I can say is that because of how I have felt since the day we met, there’s nothing to be nervous about.
Life has been chaotic for me lately, and everything seems to be falling in place as long as I don’t try to force anything. When I force, I get stress, anxiety, fear and worry. When I don’t force I get smooth, relaxing, inspiring, fulfilling moments. So why do I still force sometimes? I have no idea, maybe just to test the waters sometimes. Anyway, the moral of the story is go with the flow, and create your own flow as long as it’s not forced and feels right.
Easier said than done? Sometimes. But practice makes perfect.
Oh the announcement…my brothers and I have started a podcast! It’s still about 3-4 weeks from being live, but just wanted to put that out there and let you know it’s coming. It’s very different from what’s usually on SmallStepsBigChanges.com, but it’s going to be entertaining nonetheless.
So I’m getting married…do you have any advice for my engagement? How about for marriage? Any and all comments are appreciated!